Assume The Position
find a sex position you want to try together. If you’re playing in a group, explain to them why you chose it.
The following was originally published by Women’s Health Magazine. You can visit the original article by clicking here.
The CorkScrew
How to do it: Near the edge of a bed or bench, the receiver should rest on their hip and forearm and press their thighs together. The giving partner stands and straddles the receiver, entering or grinding from behind.
Why: By keeping their legs pressed together during this sex position, the receiver allows for a tighter hold on the giver as they thrust.
Make it hotter: Instead of letting the giver do all the work, the receiver can try thrusting their hips slightly to match the tempo.
Face-Off
How to do it: The giving partner sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; the receiver faces them while seated on their lap.
Why: During this sex position, the receiver is in control of the angle and depth of the entry and thrust. Being seated adds support, so it’s great for marathon sex sessions.
Make it hotter: Let your fingers (and hands) do the talking. Once seated, you both can put your hands anywhere on each other's bodies to make things more interesting.
Doggy Style
How to do it: The receiver gets on all fours. Then, the giver kneels behind them, with their upper body straight up or slightly draped over the receiver (ya know, like a humping dog).
Why: This sex position allows for deep penetration and easier G-spot stimulation.
Make it hotter: Vulva owners can stimulate the clitoris with one hand, or ask their partner to do the finger work for them. "Temperature play can happen here, too!". "Grab an ice cube and slowly run it down the spine of your partner."
Pretzel Dip
How to do it: The receiving partner lies down on their side. Then, the giving partner kneels between their thighs, straddling their bottom leg. The receiver's top leg then rests on one of the giver's thighs.
Why: With this sex position, you get the deeper penetration of doggy style while still being able to make eye contact with your partner. Vulva owners who don't like penetration can have the giver grind against up against them, stimulating the clit.
Make it hotter: Add nipple clamps into the mix or grab an ice cube and use it on your or your partner's nipples.
Flatiron
How to do it: The receiver lies facedown on the bed, legs straight, hips slightly raised. The giver can enter from behind.
Why: This sex position creates a snug fit, so the giver's penis or strap-on will feel even larger.
Make it hotter: "This is a great opportunity to nibble or bite on your partner's shoulders and the back of their neck to add additional sensations
69
How to do it: One partner lies flat on their back while the other climbs on top, facing away. This creates the number 69 position. Your genitals should align with your partner's mouth. Alternatively, you can try a side-by-side position.
Why: This position allows both partners to receive and give oral sex simultaneously, providing dual pleasure.
Make it hotter: Besides mouth-to-genitals contact, you can also use your hands. To enhance the experience, the person on the bottom can use a sex wedge like the Dame Pillo for a better angle. The person on top may benefit from using a versatile sex toy like the Vedo Quaker Anal Vibe, which adds more excitement and sensation to the experience.
G-Whiz
How to do it: The receiver lies on their back with one leg resting on each of the giver’s shoulders. The giver can enter as they would from the front.
Why: For vulva owners who are also receivers, this sex position is awesome because raising the legs narrows the vagina and helps target the G-spot.
Make it hotter: The giver can rock the receiver in a side-to-side or up-and-down motion.
Cowgirl’s Helper
How to do it: Similar to the popular Cowgirl sex position, the receiver kneels on top, pushing off the giver's chest and sliding up and down the thighs. But the giver helps by supporting some of the receiver's weight and grabbing their hips or thighs while they rise to meet each thrust.
Why: This sex position puts less stress on the receiver's legs, making climaxing easier. Plus, if the giver is a penis owner, it can delay their climax—extending the pleasure sesh.
Make it hotter: Alternate between shallow and deep thrusting to stimulate different nerve endings.
Wheelbarrow
How to do it: The receiver gets on their hands and feet and has the giver pick them up by the pelvis. Then, the receiver grips the giver's waist with their thighs.
Why: Aside from being a fabulous arm workout, this sex position allows for deeper penetration.
Make it hotter: Try resting on a table or the side of the bed and give your arms a break. (Relaxation is sexy!)
Leap Frog
How to do it: This is a modified doggy style position. The receiver gets on their hands and knees, then, keeping hips raised, rests their head and arms on the bed. The giver can enter from behind.
Why: This sex position creates deeper penetration—and gives the receiver a chance to rest on a pillow.
Make it hotter: Vulva owners can use their hands or a toy to stimulate the clitoris.
Magic Mountain
How to do it: The giver sits, legs bent, leaning back on their hands and forearms. The receiver does the same and then inches toward the giver until contact is made.
Why: You’ll both feel really connected looking at each other. Vulva owners can grind their clitoris against the giver's pelvis.
Make it hotter: Slide ice cubes down one partner's chest and let the cold water collect at the base of their pelvis.
Cowgirl
How to do it: The receiver kneels on top, pushing off the giver's chest and sliding up and down their thighs. The receiver can relieve some of the weight from their partner's pelvis by leaning back and supporting themself on their thighs.
Why: By being the dominant force in this sex position, the receiver delays their partner's climax and intensifies their own.
Make it hotter: "Change the depth and pressure by bringing your chests closer together, a.k.a. lean in," says Oriowo. "While you’re leaning forward, take the time to add in some nipple play and neck kisses." Alternatively, she recommends grinding in directions that slightly differ from what you normally do. Tend to go back and forth? Channel your inner Ariana Grande and go side to side.
Reverse Cowgirl
How to do it: The giver lies on their back; the receiver straddles them, facing their feet.
Why: The beauty of reverse cowgirl is that it lets the receiver take control and show the giver the pace and rhythm they like.
Make it hotter: To get more leverage, the receiver can put their knees and shins inside their legs and under the giver's thighs.
Cowboy
How to do it: The receiver lies on their back while the giving partner straddles them. The giver then gently inserts their penis, strap-on, or finger through the tight opening created by the receiver's semi-closed legs.
Why: Tightness increases the intensity of the penetration.
Make it hotter: Have the giver gently hold down the receiver's wrists for a little bondage action. If you're into BDSM, this is a great opportunity for some light choking or nipple play using nipple clamps that have adjustable pressure, says Oriowo. Plus, the same toys used on clits, like the viral Rose Clitoral Suction Stimulator, can also be used on your nipples, she adds. (Blossoming sex life, right this way!)
Ballet Dancer
How to do it: Standing on one foot, the receiver should face the giving partner and wrap one of their legs around the giver's waist while the giver helps support.
Why: This sex position allows for quality face time and connecting.
Make it hotter: If the receiver is really flexible, they can put their raised leg on the giver's shoulder for even deeper penetration or clitoral stimulation during outercourse.
Missionary
How to do it: The receiver lies on their back, while the giver lies facedown on top.
Why: The missionary sex position is simple, elegant, effective, and surprisingly versatile. Vanilla, sure, but delicious.
Make it hotter: Switch up the sensations for both of you by shifting the angle of your legs.
Cross-Booty
How to do it: The giving partner enters the receiver from the missionary position, then slides their chest and legs off the receiver's body so their pelvis is in the same location but the limbs form an “X” together.
Why: You feel more of your partner's body in motion with this sex position.
Make it hotter: Use this unique angle to massage their back, butt, or legs. They'll go crazy (as will you, watching them).
The Caboose
How to do it: While the giver sits on the bed or a chair, the receiver backs into the giver's lap and spoons while seated.
Why: You can’t see your partner during this sex position, which means fantasizing is easier and can add to the excitement.
Make it hotter: Vulva owners can tighten the muscles of their pelvic floor so they can grip the giver. They can also stimulate their clitoris with their fingers, their partner's fingers, or a toy.
Scoop Me Up
How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction. The receiver brings their knees up slightly, while the giving partner slides up behind their pelvis and enters them from behind. (You may also know this as spooning.)
Why: This sex position allows for more skin-to-skin contact, increasing overall stimulation.
Make it hotter: The giving partner can place their hands on the receiver's shoulders to increase the intensity and deepness of the thrust.
Reverse Scoop
How to do it: From the missionary position, without disengaging, turn together onto your sides, using your arms to support your upper bodies.
Why: You get a really nice full-body press, and you can gaze into each other’s eyes.
Make it hotter: Try intertwining your legs together or fondling them down below.
Golden Arch
How to do it: The giving partner sits with their legs straight, and the receiver sits on top of the giver with bent knees on top of their thighs. Then, you both lean back.
Why: This position gives you both nice views of each other’s full bodies. You’ll also have control over the depth, speed, and angle of the thrusts.
Make it hotter: Vulva owners can have their partner use their hand to rub their clitoris, or use your own. Lean back farther for extra G-spot stimulation.
The Seashell
How to do it: The receiver should lie back with their legs raised all the way up and their ankles crossed behind their own head. The giver enters from a missionary position.
Why: Vulva owners are free to work their clitoris.
Make it hotter: For vulva owners, have the giver “ride high,” rubbing their pubic bone against your clitoris, or “ride low,” directly stimulating your G-spot with the head of the penis, the strap-on, a dildo, or a finger.
Butter Churner
How to do it: The receiver should lie on their back with their legs raised and folded over so that their ankles are on either side of their head, while the giver squats and dips their penis, strap-on, dildo, or finger in and out.
Why: Aside from getting that eye contact, the extra rush of blood into your head will increase the ecstasy.
Make it hotter: Have them dribble chocolate syrup or something sweet into your mouth (yes, really). It gets more of your senses involved, amping up the entire experience.
The Chairman
How to do it: The giving partner sits on the edge of the bed and the receiver sits on them, facing away. The receiving partner leans back on the giver, creating full body-to-body contact.
Why: For vulva owners, this sex position will hit the spot…as in, your G-spot. Meanwhile, you can use your hands to stimulate the scrotum, perineum, or clitoris.
Make it hotter: The receiver can bring their knees closer to their chest, supporting their feet on the bed.
The Pinball Wizard
How to do it: The receiver gets into a partial bridge position (like a pinball machine), with their weight resting on their shoulders. The giving partner enters the receiver from a kneeling position.
Why: If the receiving partner has a vulva, this position allows the giving partner easy access to stimulate the clitoris and massage the mons pubis.
Make it hotter: The receiver can throw one leg up against their partner's shoulder for deeper penetration.
Valedictorian
How to do it: From missionary position, the receiver raises their legs and extends them straight out (forming a “V”).
Why: This allows for some good genital-to-genital contact.
Make it hotter: Receivers can try grabbing their ankles. That can give them stability and an added stretch to boost the sensation.
Spork
How to do it: The receiver should lie on their back and raise their right leg so the giving partner can position their body between their legs at a 90-degree angle and enter. The receiver's left leg can lie straight out on the bed or they can bend it to manipulate depth of penetration. For a rear-entry option, the receiver can lie on their stomach, bend one leg, and have the giving partner position themselves in between their legs.
Why: From the spork position, the receiver can lift their top leg and support it by resting it on the giving partner's shoulder. From here, vulva owners can easily stimulate their clitoris.
Make it hotter: Synchronize your breathing. One of you takes the lead and the other follows so that you inhale and exhale together. The coordinated rhythm opens an unspoken dialogue of intimacy.
Seated Wheelbarrow
How to do it: The giving partner sits at the edge of a bed or chair, while the receiving partner positions themself so their butt is in the giver's lap. Then, the receiver plants their hands firmly on the floor, stretching their legs out behind the giver's waist (it’ll probably work better if the giver supports their partner's thighs) and pump away.
Why: This position allows for some super-deep penetration.
Make it hotter: Try rhythmically squeezing your pelvic muscles, to help you both reach a strong climax.
Table Top
How to do it: The receiver should lie on their back and raise their right leg so the giving partner can position their body between their legs at a 90-degree angle and enter. The receiver's left leg can lie straight out on the bed or they can bend it to manipulate depth of penetration. For a rear-entry option, the receiver can lie on their stomach, bend one leg, and have the giving partner position themselves in between their legs.
Why: From the spork position, the receiver can lift their top leg and support it by resting it on the giving partner's shoulder. From here, vulva owners can easily stimulate their clitoris.
Make it hotter: Synchronize your breathing. One of you takes the lead and the other follows so that you inhale and exhale together. The coordinated rhythm opens an unspoken dialogue of intimacy.
Champagne Room
How to do it: The giving partner sits and the receiver sits on top of them, facing away. The receiving partner leans forward, rather than back on their partner (as seen in The Chairman).
Why: It helps the receiver regulate the pace and intensity of the thrusts.
Make it hotter: Try doing it on the stairs or the edge of the tub. Takes a bit of talent...but hey, practice makes perfect, amirite?
The Om
How to do it: The giving partner sits cross-legged (yoga/pretzel-style), while the receiver sits in their lap facing them. The receiver should wrap their legs around the giver and hug each other for support.
Why: Also known as the lotus, this configuration is best for tantric sex. Rocking, not thrusting, is the key when it comes to this very intimate position.
Make it hotter: Lock into each other’s deep gaze to put some extra “oh” into the big O.
Upstanding Citizen
How to do it: The receiver straddles the giver, wrapping their legs around the other's body (the giver keeps their knees unlocked and thighs spread slightly). The giver stands and supports the receiver in their arms. You can start on the bed and move around without disengaging. (Or, for the truly bold, receivers can hop aboard from the standing position!)
Why: This is the position of every steamy romance movie...a.k.a, it’s a must-try.
Make it hotter: Have the giver push the receiver up against a wall—very carefully.
The Spider
How to do it: Sit on the bed with legs toward one another, arms back to support yourselves. Now move together so that the receiver goes onto the giver's penis or strap-on. The receiver's hips will be between the giver's spread legs, the receiver's knees bent, and feet outside of the giver's hips and flat on the bed. Now rock back and forth.
Why: You can still maintain eye contact while viewing the action at center stage.
Make it hotter: The receiving partner can grab the giver’s hands and pull themself up into a squatting position while the giver lies back. Or the giver can remain seated upright and pull the receiver against their chest into the Lazy Man position (see below).
The Good Ex
How to do it: Sit on the bed facing each other with legs forward. The giving partner’s right leg goes over the receiver's left, and the receiver's right leg goes over the giver's left. Come together so the giver can enter. Now both of you lie back, your legs forming an X. Slow, leisurely gyrations replace thrusting.
Why: Prolonged slow sex will build your arousal. Shallow thrusts can also stimulate the nerve endings in the head of their penis (if a sexual partner has one).
Make it hotter: Reach out and hold hands to pull together for pelvic thrusting. Also, take turns alternatively sitting up and lying back without changing the rhythm.
The Lazy Man
How to do it: Place pillows behind the giving partner’s back and have them sit on the bed with legs outstretched. (Got a sex pillow? Break it out!) Now the receiving partner can straddle their waist with feet on the bed. The receiver should bend their knees to lower themself onto their partner, using one hand to direct the penis or strap-on in. Just by pressing on the balls of their feet and releasing, they can raise and lower themself onto the shaft as slowly or as quickly as they please.
Why: This position puts the receiver in control, and maintains plenty of intimacy. For vulva owners, think of the giver's penis or strap-on as a masturbatory tool, something to rub and stimulate your clitoris with and against.
Make it hotter: From this position, you both can lie back into the Spider position or its more challenging variation, the Good Ex.
Snow Angel
How to do it: The receiver should lie on their back and have the giving partner straddle them, facing away. The receiver lifts their legs and wraps them around the giver's back to elevate their pelvis so the giver can enter. Grabbing the giver's butt can help them slide up and back.
Why: You get a prime view of their cute butt. Plus, from this position, you have easy access to fondle their testicles or clitoris. Not to mention, their pelvis is perfectly positioned for grinding.
Make it hotter: Have the giver spin around into missionary style to face the receiver while trying to stay inserted. Then, switch positions, this time with the receiver on top and facing away.
Wrapped Lotus
How to do it: The giving partner sits cross-legged and the receiver climbs into their lap, facing them, with the receiver's legs wrapped around the giver's back. The giving partner enters, and the receiver grinds up against their pelvis.
Why: This position allows for some major face-to-face intimacy. Plus there’s plenty of room for creativity in this position—like stimulating different erogenous zones on each others' upper bodies, like the head, neck, and face.
Make it hotter: Ask them to lick your nipples and let their hands roam. And roam...and roam. (You get the idea.)
The Snake
How to do it: The receiver lies down on their stomach, lifting up their butt. (They can also use a wedge or sex pillow to get the angle just right.) Then, the giving partner lies down on top of them and slides in from behind.
Why: This position allows for super-deep penetration, and a snug fit which can feel great for both parties.
Make it hotter: Receivers can reach back and wrap their hand around the shaft to help control how deep the giver gets, or they can change up the angle of their butt for the same effect.
Woman Astride
How to do it: This position is just like cowgirl, but with a twist. The receiver climbs on top, while their partner enters them from a lying down position. Then, the receiver leans back and places their hands on the bed for support, creating a 45-degree angle with the giving partner's legs.
Why: For vulva owners, this change in angle helps target the G-spot even more, and gives more control over the speed and depth of thrusts. Plus, giving partners have easy access to the clitoris.
Make it hotter: If you have a vulva, give yourself a hand with the “V stroke”: Make a V with the index and ring finger of one hand and place the fingers on either side of the clitoris with the giving partner's penis, strap-on, or a dildo in between. Push your fingers down in a rocking motion.
Stand and Deliver
How to do it: With both of you standing, the receiver bends over at the waist; the giver enters from behind.
Why: For vulva owners, bending over during this sex position helps make the vaginal walls tighter and increases the intensity of the friction.
Make it hotter: Those with vulvas can ask for clitoral stimulation, or the giver can loosely tie their partner's hands together with a silky scarf.
Coital Alignment Technique
How to do it: The receiver lies on their back and wraps their ankles around the giving partner's calves. Then, the receiver should flex their legs to bring their partner closer.
Why: This position is meant to pull the giving partner's penis or dildo up closer towards the genitals for extra pleasure.
Make it hotter: Taking it slow will give you and your partner an opportunity to talk dirty, gaze into each other's eyes, and all that good stuff.
Mutual Masturbation
How to do it: You and your partner can find a comfortable spot across from or next to each other, and either take turns masturbating while one watches or masturbate together.
Why: Though it might not technically count as a position, mutual masturbation is one of the most intimate acts out there, since you're showing your partner what pleasure looks like to you when you're on your own.
Make it hotter: If you want to hand over the control to your partner, try having them instruct you on how you should touch or edge yourself.